Friday, May 22, 2009

High Tea for Happy Home

As mentioned before, Ian, Finn and I spend our afternoons at Happy Home. Ian plays soccer with the older kids while Finn and I hang out with the younger kids. Technically, I am "teaching English." I would love to say that's the case, but it's not. There are about 100+ kids crammed into this cinderblock room, ages infant - 9yrs. old. (I'm embarrassed that I used to complain about my classes of 25 kids who were at different levels.) Anyhow, when I attempted to formally "teach", maybe 15 of those kids were engaged. After two sessions of feeling like a failure, I've taken a new approach. We play games; duck-duck-goose, elbow tag, on the bank/in the creek, and others I make up as we go along. The benefits - we are no longer trapped in that small, dark room, the kids are exerting their energy, they seem to be having fun....and we play the games in "English." Even Finn gets a thrill of being able to run around and play in the dirt and yell "duck." Somehow the word is starting to spread about Happy Home. More people are suddenly interested in getting involved. For example, last weekend several diplomatic women hosted a "high tea" as a fundraiser for Happy Home. To be honest, I wasn't thrilled about attending. I was happy to donate money - but I was anxious about the actual event. I'd never been to a high tea before. I wasn't going to know many of these women and wasn't sure if I'd be able to engage in genuine conversation. And of course....the wardrobe dilemna. It's winter here. The mornings and evenings are cold (about 40 degrees). The afternoons, however, reach the 70's. The tea was outdoors from 3-6, meaning half would be warm and the other half cold. I'm glad I didn't bail out! Even though I wasn't exactly in my comfort zone, I had a really nice time. It was really cool to see women from all over the world come together for this good cause. Each hostess sponsored a table and was responsible for selling tickets to women from her country. As I started to walk toward the "American" table, Esther grabbed me and said that I was sitting at her table. Talk about feeling relieved! Nothing against my fellow Americans, it was just nice to sit with Esther and some of her friends I've met by volunteering at Happy Home. After tea was served, we were welcomed by the hostess and invited to help ourselves to the amazing food cooked by all the different nationalities. What a treat! But the best part of the event....the surprise visit / concert from the kids at Happy Home. Most of the women at the event, knew very little about Happy Home. Having the kids there was PERFECT! The women were so impressed. I think they were taken back by their talent (playing the violin, recorder, xylophone, etc.) - and all thanks to the hard work and love of Esther and David! They've been running the home for 10 years now. And WOW! Wish you could have been there!

Monday, May 18, 2009

Finn and Paint

Happy Birthday Patience!

On Wednesday, May 13, we celebrated Patience's 27th birthday. Ali and Lydia came over and we surprised her with cake and presents. Patience was very excited. Finn and Lydia loved eating cake!


April Highlights

Sunday, May 17, 2009

March Highlights

March was certainly a significant month. Our lives are completely different. Finn started walking! Other higlights include our new volunteer gig at Happy Home in Old Naledi, and "Parent Day" at Finn's school.

A Couple of Unsung Heroes

Here is another one of my articles written for the Kalahari Star

On Monday morning, March 30, the Kopong Community library was already busy. Each computer was being used, young adults occupied the round tables, while a training was taking place in the children’s reading room. Teenager Mary Ledzi Mokgweetsi explained that she comes to this library every day, twice a day. “I read the paper, use the computer, and am very involved with the youth library. We use teamwork and cooperation to help the young students with reading, using the computers, and learning more about different cultures.”

She continued to explain that the library is full in the afternoons. This is where everyone comes after school. There is always a line for the computers. Mary paused for a moment, then smiled and said, “I’m so thankful that they brought the library. We were really struggling before, to find information. Now, as you can see, we have books, papers, magazines, and computers!”

The “thanks” goes to Robert and Sara Rothschild.

In 2006 Robert, a retired engineer, traveled to South Africa to help a friend finish constructing a library. Meanwhile, his wife, Sara, spent a couple of weeks here in Botswana on a Habitat for Humanity project where she helped to build a couple of houses. Their combined experiences made an incredible impact. Rather than taking the opportunity to retire after recently selling their family business, they began a new project. One thing lead to another, and eventually the Robert and Sara Rothschild Family Foundation was born. Sara and Robert worked with the Botswana government and now have a Memo of Understanding (MOU) with the Botswana National Library Service (BNLS). The Foundation builds the libraries while the BNLS provides the land, maintenance, books, and the staff.

Their first library opened in September 2007 in Mannangkodi. Kopong Community Library followed 6 months later and opened in February 2008. The most recent library opened in Ramokgonami in October of 2008. At the end of this month, on April 30, the 4th library will open in Matlhako.

In addition to their partnership with the BNLS, the Gates Foundation is using these libraries for one of their pilot programs. The Gates Foundation not only donated and installed six computers in each library, but is also providing computer trainings.

Sara and Robert are incredibly humble people. Just by talking to them, one wouldn’t realize the scope of the positive difference they are making. In order to understand the magnitude of their hard work, huge hearts, and the impact they’ve made on this country, visit one of their libraries. Even better, attend the opening ceremony on April 30 for thelibrary in Matlhako!

Thursday, March 19, 2009

A Happy Home in Old Naledi

In January I started a part-time job with the U.S. Embassy. I'm the editor of the Kalahari Star - a newsletter that is distributed to the American Mission Community in Gaborone. It is distributed electronically every other Friday. I've added a section called "Get Involved" in which I highlight a different organization each issue and include information as to how Americans living here can get invlolved. Today's blog post is straight from today's Kalahari Star. I visited Old Naledi (the poorest village in Gaborone) on Wednesday. The couple of hours I spent at Happy Home were the most touching moments I've experienced in Africa!

Esther and David, Korean missionaries arrived to Botswana in 1996. After 5 years of living here, Esther had a change of heart. Rather than turning her head from the children begging at the BBS mall, she decided to help them. “I have no money to give you, but I can cook. We can meet back at this tree at 5:00 and I will have food.” Esther went home and prepared a meal for these children. As she promised, she met them at 5:00 with plenty of food.

This happened 10 years ago. Not a day has passed since, that Esther hasn’t prepared a meal for children at 5:00. But there is a big difference. That small group of 7 children has turned into a group of 300.

Esther will tell you that for so long she focused most of her time and energy on her own son. She wanted to make sure that he was exposed to music, art, sport, etc. so that he could have a bright future. However, when he returned to Korea to finish his schooling, Esther began to recognize a need for children in Botswana. In order for these children to experience a bright future, someone needed to expose them to the world, ultimately to help them reach their unique potential.

Esther and her husband, David, have done just that. In 2002 they created Happy Home for the children in the village of Old Naledi.

Children arrive to Happy Home after school around 2:30. Each day these children are offered a different activity. Mondays are devoted to music (recorder, xylophone, violin). Tuesdays the children practice English, Wednesdays are dedicated to art and math, Thursdays are for karate and math, while Friday is for sports. Before going home, Esther serves the children a hot dinner, one that she prepares in the morning while the children attend school. On Saturdays, David and Esther bring a group of the children to their own home where they bake, watch videos and just have fun.

While Esther and David have accomplished the unthinkable, they are incredibly humble. It is evident that this couple leads by their example. The children in Happy Home are polite, well behaved and extremely gracious. Thanks to the work of Esther and David, the children are not only confident, but talented. The art and music they create most certainly exude the happiness they find at Happy Home.
To find out how you can get involved with Happy Home, see page 11.



Esther has taught many of the children to play the violin!

The children playing "Amazing Grace" on their recorders.

You can look forward to more pics and videos...for Ian, Finn and I have decided to spend our Friday afternoons at Happy Home!

Sunday, March 15, 2009

Look Who's Walking!

For about a month Finn was taking a few steps here and there. However, the second he realized anyone was watching, he'd plop right back down. If we clapped or showed any type of excitement, he would start to cry. So for several weeks, we've had to ignore any attempts at walking. Something happened Wednesday evening. All of a sudden, he walked all the way across the room. Of course we were trying to "ignore" him, but he turned and gave us the "come on mom and dad, you're supposed to be clapping and telling me how great I am" look. So we did just that. And he hasn't stopped walking since!

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Trip to Cape Town

Written post to come! For now, here are some pictures.

February Highlights

It's been way too long since we've posted! So sorry!
Enjoy the pics of Finn. Hope to post about our incredible trip to Cape Town soon!

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

From Baby to Little Boy

Finn is no longer a baby. The change happened so fast - almost like we blinked and suddenly a different child appeared. The first sign came a few weeks ago when he started feeding himself.




Talking was the next development. While we have no idea what Finn is talking about, he has a lot to say. While talking to someone, he makes serious eye contact (just like his dad). And he will wait for a response!


Last but certainly not least, Finn can be naughty. When he does something that he KNOWS he should not be doing, he will look at us and wait for a response. Whether we say "no," or remove him from whatever is about to happen, he does it anyway. Then he smiles and laughs and continues about his business.

In the Bath

Who needs television when you can get this kind of entertainment?
And I can't believe I had the camera to capture this priceless discovery!

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Ian and the Trade Hub

Since Ian is not one to toot his own horn, I'm going to do it for him (beep-beep)! He is in Johannesburg, South Africa right now for a "trade" forum. Over 200 delegates from countries in the southern Africa region are attending (including ambassadors and other important dignitaries). Guess what? My husband and his colleagues organized the entire event! Until Thursday, I never really considered all of the logistics and behind the scenes efforts that take place in such events. Last Thursday evening (two days before Ian's departure) I came to the office to help with a few last minute preparations. I was blown away by Ian and his team. Talk about dedication! All of them pretty much worked around the clock the weeks leading up to the event. It was crunch time. I was expecting high stress levels and bitterness for the multitude of overtime hours. I was wrong! While everyone had to be stressed and tired, they did a great job of hiding it. I don't think I've witnessed this level of camaraderie since high school field hockey.

Anyhow, at one point, while I helped one of Ian's local staff members prepare the welcome packets, she said, "We are lucky to work for Ian because he doesn't take for granted his employees. And we know the event will be successfull because Ian is very organized!" Yep - that's my husband and I am proud to toot his horn!

January Highlights

Benton and Maggie's visit was definitely the highlight of the month. Most of these pictures are from our "Botswana Adventure!"

December Highlights

From camping in the Central Kalahari Desert, celebrating Finn's 1st Birthday and Christmas to Uncle Benton and Aunt Maggie's visit and New Years Eve, December was packed with loads of fun!

Sunday, February 1, 2009

Language is a Barrier!

According to the "Teen Leaders" and the volunteer facilitators, yesterday's Teen Club went well. While I do take other feedback into consideration, I weigh heavily on my own evaluation. Unfortunately, this was quite difficult yesterday. The event was almost entirely in Setswana.

The theme of the event was Personal Safety and Crime Prevention. We had two guest speakers, a Police Officer and a counselor from Childline (an organization that responds to children in crisis situations). Following their presentations, we broke the teens into groups to role-play and discuss specific scenarios. Topics included: theft, sex-exchange (prostitution), rape, drug/alcohol abuse, cell phone predators, and hitch-hiking. I chose these topics because these are what our teens deal with on a regular basis. It's bad enough to be a victim in any one of these situations. But imagine the added implications if you are HIV+!

Unfotunately, it is very common here for teens (as well as men and women) to have multiple partners. And it's not out of the ordinary to hear a conversation like this:

"Who was that guy that dropped you off?"

"My boyfriend!"

"I thought Thumelo is your boyfriend."

"He is! But this guy is too! He provides my transport. Thumelo buys my airtime [cell phone minutes]."

Of course this is problematic. Add the HIV+ component and you begin to understand why 1 and 3 people here are infected with HIV/AIDS.

Yesterday the question was asked, "Why is it common for teens to 'sell themselves' in exchange for material items?"

Sadly, the response was, "Because we live in poverty. How else do we get these things?"

Anyhow, back to my orginal point. At the beginning I popped in on each group to see how things were going. At first, there was a lot of blank faces and awkward silence. But as soon as I asked if they wanted to hear the scenarios in Setswana, everything changed. Fortunately, there were enough local volunteers for each group who could translate. Suddenly, all the kids were participating. I just wish I understood what they were saying!

Friday, January 30, 2009

Time to Walk the Walk!

I'm excited and nervous. Tomorrow is the first time that I get to lead Teen Club. I've been volunteering at the Baylor Clinic for almost 3 months now. My time there is split between the morning Play Group program and the Teen Club program. I've not only participated in Teen Club events in Gaborone, but also Mochudi and Francistown. While I had fun at each event, they weren't really what I was expecting. According the the Teen Club mission statement, we are supposed to be providing both eductation and psychosocial support so that these teens can live long healthy lives.

I thought my role as a volunteer was to develop a life skills curriculum for HIV+ kids that we would then use for future Teen Club events. In December I asked if we could pilot some of the activities I've put together. I was told there wasn't room in the agenda. I didn't push the issue. I'm just a volunteer and maybe I haven't been around long enough to see Teen Club in full effect. Ian and I came to that event. Guess what the kids did for the entire time? Played games! No doubt they had a great time - but what did they learn?

A week later I took two of the Teen Club leaders to a Rotary Club meeting. We are applying for a Roatary grant, so they asked us to make a presentation. The kids were impressive. The young lady shared that her disease made her feel lonely and depressed. She contemplated suicide. But thanks to Teen Club, her life has completely changed for the better.

Guess what I learned one month later? This young lady is pregnant. She doesn't know the father because she has multiple partners. On top of that, she hasn't disclosed her status to any of her partners.

Case in point: we are not doing what we say we are doing! What did I do? Gathered up my data from the Needs Assessment that I conducted (first task I was given as a volunteer) and opened my big mouth! Did you know that more than 70% of our "teen leaders" aren't adhering to their meds? Or that only 1 out of the 8 teen leaders can tell you the four ways HIV can be transmitted? Only 2 can tell you why it's important to take ARV's.

It's time to start doing what we say we do! And tomorrow's my chance to get that ball rolling. I've spent a lot of time researching and planning. Let's hope the implementation goes well!

Saturday, January 24, 2009

Ice, Ice Baby

With the holidays behind us, our return here to some sense of routine is more welcome than disappointing if only because Findley does better on a schedule. We did however enjoy a fantastic visit from Chase’s brother (Benton) and girlfriend (Maggie) over the X-mas/New Year break, traveling around Botswana to some of the far flung lodges and camp sites that make this country incredible to be in. Traversing gravel roads, dirt roads, and roads that at times looked like they had been bombed there were so many pot holes, we made it to our destinations in one piece and were rewarded with some great animal viewing and memories. Covering as much ground as we did in what was a pretty cramped car, with a one year old boy who wants to do nothing but move around, was bound to result in: 1) everyone killing each other (or at least wishing the others were dead) or 2) everyone trying to embrace the “adventure” and ultimately learning more about our traveling companions than when we started out. I think it is a testament to Benton and Maggie and their flexibility that #2 prevailed.



We had heard that Gaborone would empty out during the holidays, with all business, shops and restaurants closing for the better part of one month and locals traveling back to their home villages. Still, it was a little surreal just how quiet it was. Streets normally bustling with traffic and activity were silent. We were able to take long walks without fear of being steamrolled and spent lots of time trying to cool off in the pool. People returned in good spirits and looking refreshed, and it reminded me that we should take more time off in America than we do.

The inauguration was closely watched here, and locals celebrated as if Obama had just been sworn in as their own president. Lots of congratulations were extended to us, just as they were after he won the election. There seems to be more respect, and even envy, towards Americans than at any other time I can remember in my time abroad. We even renewed our cancelled satellite subscription for a month just so we could watch history unfold.


Seeing the reaction of locals to the inauguration got me thinking about the culture and mentality of people here. I may be guilty of generalizing here, but Botswana tend to live for the moment. They do not dwell on the future nearly as much as we do, and this can be both a good and a bad thing. They are a people less stressed and carefree, able to appreciate what is good in their life (no matter how much hardship might befall them). But with this mentality comes a vulnerability to bad times that may lie ahead. I worry that my staff are not going to be prepared for the loss of employment and income that comes when our project comes to an end. I talk to them about “what next” and very few seem to have a plan. I worry about Patience, our nanny from Zimbabwe, and what she will do when the family we share her with (and who also employs her and houses her husband and little girl) move from Botswana. Most don’t have a ‘Plan B’ which is disconcerting in even good times, but even more worrisome when there is a global economic crisis like the one that is just now starting to hit Botswana.

Most Southern Africa countries are very poor. The ones that are better off rely on one sector, such as oil (e.g. Angola) or diamonds (e.g. Botswana) or tourism (e.g. Seychelles). You can say their economies should be more diversified, but it isn’t really realistic. You can’t create a manufacturing sector, for example, in a place with no infrastructure, resources or comparative advantage such as cheap skilled labor. And so they face a real dilemma. In looking at Botswana, we are seeing the diamond mines begin to retrench. The U.S. and to a lesser extent Western Europe are the biggest consumers of diamonds and anyone watching the news can figure out that not many people are splurging on high end items right now. So diamond prices decline, manufacturing stops, the mining companies are sitting on huge inventories, new mining projects in the early stages are being halted because they can’t get financing, and the Government of Botswana is facing a serious spending crunch because their budgets are based on income from diamond exports (about 80% of Botswana’s GDP) that clearly isn’t going to materialize. It is going to be a bad year here, even if things rebound soon which is unlikely. And sadly, Botswana is better off than most countries in the region. They at least have political stability and a significant amount of reserves to carry them through in the short-term. On a more personal level, we have started to see many of our expat friends working in the mining industry lose their jobs and they are packing up to return home. In terms of my project, we are not really feeling much impact because our funding is already obligated. It remains to be seen what it all means for future development aid coming to Botswana, Southern Africa and the continent. There is obviously a lot of need right now everywhere and I think everyone in the development world is waiting to see where the focus of the new administration will be. So we trudge on, like everyone else, trying to forget about the troubles to the extent that it is possible and focus on the bright side.

One of the things I love about Botswana is that it is a place you can experience Africa without being overwhelmed by the hardship. I’ve heard some people describe it as “Africa for beginners” and the description is apt. (For many aid workers, it is in fact not hard enough.) On the one hand we have amenities in Gaborone that would make it a crime for us to ever complain, such as air conditioning (at least in part of the house), clean water, and a pool for gods sake. There is not one but two modern malls, cinemas, and restaurants that would seem right in place in most American cities. But within the cities and even across the street from these modern commercial districts, you have shacks adorned with nothing more than a stool and a razor that serve as barber shops, cows roaming the streets, makeshift car washes and tire repair stands and people selling everything from aquariums to crafts to fish, literally on the side of the road. You see women balancing large baskets of fruit on their head and smiling, little boys, barefoot and shirtless playing soccer on rocky dirt patches with a pathetic, unraveling ball and empty beer cartons serving as goalposts. It is this comingling of modernity and what I envisioned before I came as the “real Africa” that fascinates me. The contrast only sharpens when you leave Gaborone and venture out into the villages. One of the places we went to on our trip was a place just north of the Central Kalahari Desert, on the edge of the pans. We stayed in a very cool place called Planet Baobab. When we arrived I was in desperate need of ice (a sometimes hard to find commodity here) so that I could chill Findley’s milk that we had brought with us. The lodge did not have any ice, nor did the only gas station nearby. So one of the women working there offered to take me into her village to try and find some. We drove to four different places without success. Finally, she leads me down this dirt road to a small church where we began to hear beautiful singing. She went inside, then came back out with a woman and her child who had abandoned the service to pile into my car. We drove to the woman’s small home where she disappeared and then reemerged triumphantly with a block of ice. Apparently those with enough money there to have freezers make and sell ice to supplement their income. I’m not sure why I bring this up but I guess it kind of strikes me as a good example of how progress can reach remote places and in strange ways.





2009 is shaping up to be banner year for Findley. He started nursery school and will be going three mornings a week. This will give him a chance to experience new kids and new activities, as well as start preparing for the SATs and perhaps pick up some extracurricular activities that will look good on his college application. He has four teeth now, almost, and has expressed interest in walking but not enough to actually do it on his own. He laughs a lot and cries a lot and talks non-stop in his very own language. We relish all of it (ok, most of it). In addition to working with the teens and little children at the Baylor Clinic, Chase is now famous in diplomatic circles here. She recently was hired to write the bi-weekly newsletter that the Embassy sends out to all of the American diplomats and aid workers. The first issue went out last week and rocked the house. If you ever want to know what is going on in Gaborone, we’ll send you a copy.